The Virtue Of Shutting Up

We all want to express ourselves. We consider it a right and a necessary form of behavior to speak up and verbalize what’s on our mind. And yes, for all of us, to talk for the purpose of venting, informing or simply throwing a joke is a need. The desire to share our thoughts is natural. There’s nothing wrong with that.

But when we speak up, it’s important to consider that the timing of when to speak up and when not to saying anything is essential in making our point effectively and also not looking stupid. We need to learn to incubate our thoughts, allow our minds to process further what we’re about to say and not just irresponsibly exercise the right to express ourselves. Every word we say can have a tangible consequence, good or bad, thus we ought to be more careful. Continue reading

Elusiveness Of Peace In A Connected World

The word peace has become more important, more valuable, and unfortunately in some parts of the globe, more rare. According to a recent study released by The Institute for Economic and Peace (IEP), a leading think-tank which develops one of the world’s primary gauge of “global peacefulness,” only 11 out of 162 countries in the world today are not involved in conflict of one kind or another.

The study also noted that as a whole, the globe is becoming less peaceful every year since 2007.

A Wars in Progress list updated on July 2014 by Professor Joshua Goldstein shows that there are currently 10 wars and 8 serious armed conflicts at present. The ongoing war in Syria being the most deadly, claiming an estimated 170,000 lives in the past three years. Continue reading

On Goals and Gratefulness

Source: Flickr/Linus Bohman

Source: Flickr/Linus Bohman

“Humans are insatiable,” I remember hearing this from an economics professor, who then explained to our class of newly minted eco majors what the term means. He explained that it’s basic human behavior to never be satisfied, especially with money.

He then went into a diatribe explaining the concept of utility, which is a measure of satisfaction, and how our fixation or desire for something can wane over time. In reality, it’s only because we choose to want more or something else. Continue reading

Hope Moves Forward

Source: iHopeNYC.orgIt’s 4 a.m. and I can’t sleep. A million thoughts were running through my head that kept me awake; though my body is tired, my mind is in full-throttle. Minutes later, tears flowed through my cheeks and I uttered a prayer, “Lord, bring me back to New York,” a few moments later I finally fell asleep.

This isn’t the first time it happened. Caused by the painful feelings of missing home, I’ve cried buckets of tears. But the hope that things will work out because I am where I need to be has kept me going.

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My First Day (And Night) In Manila

It was a warm welcome! As soon as I got out of the airplane, treading the tarmac of Ninoy Aquino International Airport (NAIA), the heat seems to be coming from everywhere. Though initially uncomfortable, it’s a very good sign that my plane landed in the right city. I’m back to the it-is-summer-here-year-round Metropolis of Manila.

It was November 2006 when I left for the States. The day I arrived was April 3, 2014, around noon. It has been more than seven years since I’ve been home.

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The Point of Speaking Life

From the fruit of their lips people are filled with good things, – Proverbs: 12:14

The Point of Speaking Life A few weeks ago I was listening to Toby Mac’s “Speak Life” single and the words in it are so powerful (you can see the video below) that I told my roommate this has to be the theme song in our Jersey pad.

You see, I grew up with a Mom who was determined to inculcate in her children the power of words. She would cancel and rebuke me anytime I speak words of death (or nonsense), warn us of any idle talk or conversation and cite verses like “So tell them, ‘As surely as I live, declares the LORD, I will do to you the very thing I heard you say: (Numbers 14:28)” from the Old Testament, referencing how God can move in situations by what you speak.

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2013 Word of the Year: Restored

word of the yearRedemption, realignment, reconnection and a whole lot of relearning were part of the many things that has happened to me this year. But if there’s one “re” that would define 2013 for me, it’s the word restored.

I realized this because my friend Pastor Kaz invited a few of us from church for a Christmas party. After an incredible meal, while we’re all full and lounging at his living room, he asked us what one word would define 2013 for each of us.

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How NOT To Tell People You’re A Christian

I’m far from a perfect Christian and I’ve learned early that it’s best not to tell people you are a follower of Christ if you have no plans on living His teachings. I have also always believed that Christianity demands the practice of utmost compassion and understanding towards other people, regardless of their religious belief, political stance, ethnic background or sexual orientation.

Christianity in its most basic sense is founded on God’s love and the value of sharing His teachings in a way that will lead people to Christ. If your method of sharing your faith will only drive people away from Christ, then your approach demands a second look – especially of its motives. If your goal is to tell people you’re a Christian and intend to emphasize the importance of your faith, you will not insult them, put them down and more importantly, degrade their character. Continue reading

Four Roadblocks That Keep You From Writing Your Story

In my first blog post, I emphasized the problem of overthinking as an impediment to writing your first draft. The goal of writing is to write and the only way to come up with a draft is to actually pen something. There are a lot of great stories from people that we don’t read about not because they can’t write, but because of self-imposed limitations and conquerable constraints that have kept them from writing their story.

If you’re someone like me who aspires to write his own book someday or make a career out of writing, you need to overcome these roadblocks that will keep you from putting your words in a format people can read and enjoy.

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Write First, Be Anxious Later

The goal for perfection is both a blessing and a curse for any ambitious writer. Ernest Hemingway revised the ending of Farewell to Arms 39 times before he was satisfied. Asked for the reason on why it took him that long to finish it, he answered, “getting the words right.”

Any writer who wishes to satisfy the littlest whims of her fancy to come up with an amazing piece will take the time to produce an article, blog post, profile or newsletter. Just like Hemingway, to get the words right requires tremendous effort and a huge amount of rewriting and revision, a habit that every writer loves to hate. As many writers would say, “great writing involves a lot of rewriting.”

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